tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087687110589659839.post5005490801567174028..comments2011-11-26T13:39:42.128-08:00Comments on Confessions of Your Gay Best Friend: On matters of the heart and the head...Cougarhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10397408778279604292noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087687110589659839.post-11929196542045922802009-03-26T09:41:00.000-07:002009-03-26T09:41:00.000-07:00I collect quotes like it's nobody's business, and ...I collect quotes like it's nobody's business, and so many of them remind me of this struggle. In my Women in Lit class, we're starting to touch on this continuous narrative that you have to suffer to really learn and grow, and that maybe it isn't true, but we've internalized it from so many fictional love stories, to such an extent that we're forcing ourselves to suffer too much. But maybe it's true, and we have to be destroyed to be built up, and we have to make mistakes to learn. And maybe there will never be an Answer, only each person's understanding. That's enough, I think.<BR/><BR/>"One of my wings beat faster,<BR/>I couldn't help it--<BR/>the one away from the light.<BR/>It hurt to be told all the time<BR/>how I loved that terrible flame."<BR/>William Stafford<BR/><BR/>"Take chances, make mistakes. That's how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave."<BR/>Mary Tyler Moore<BR/><BR/>"If nothing else, one day you can look someone straight in the eyes and say<BR/>'But I lived through it. And it made me who I am today.'"<BR/>I Wrote This For You (fabulous blog)<BR/><BR/>"The fluttering in the stomach goes away and the dull waking pain. Sometimes I think of you and I feel giddy. Memory makes me lightheaded, drunk on champagne. All the things we did. And if anyone had said this was the price I would have agreed to pay it. That surprises me; that with the hurt and the mess comes a shaft of recognition. It was worth it. Love it worth it."<BR/>Jeanette WintersonHealy (not "Heelee...")https://www.blogger.com/profile/11893212502842152478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087687110589659839.post-37852679664857918032009-03-25T18:23:00.000-07:002009-03-25T18:23:00.000-07:00Hey, James! It's good to see you writing here! I...Hey, James! It's good to see you writing here! It's certainly a good way to get your feelings down and to help the world to get to know another side of you.<BR/><BR/>Quite a story, my friend. I can relate to it a bit, really. There was someone I met a while back with whom I thought I might be able to make an all but perfect relationship, but it just didn't happen and ended up in hell. I went through the whole heartbreak stage for a while and asked myself all the "why?" "what did I do wrong?" "why can't she love me?" questions, but eventually I saw that torturing myself like that was ineffective and a waste of energy. Things like that can be hard to live with, but you'll find yourself ten times stronger after the whole experience. For me, loving myself can be pretty hard at times, and it might be the very reason I've never really dated anyone. You are a really strong guy, though, and you deserve to love yourself. After all, everybody else does! How couldn't they? You're so talented, worldly, friendly, and fun! I have a lot of respect for you as a human being, and I have no qualms in saying that you're a great guy who really deserves to be proud of himself. There are ways in which I wish I were more like you. Hang in there, brother; it's his loss!<BR/><BR/>I'm really looking forward to seeing Setzuan! It's going to be great. I miss doing Edward with you - those were some good times. Take care, man!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3087687110589659839.post-44829051295795429632009-03-25T15:14:00.000-07:002009-03-25T15:14:00.000-07:00Wow James. this is really, really good. You are 10...Wow James. this is really, really good. You are 100% on. One of my favorite "life lessons" is: you have to love yourself before you can love another. And I think you are writing about and discovering just that. That quote is actually below by FB picture in that little "box" thing.<BR/><BR/>and a billion people can relate to this. I find so much wisdom in this blog.erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03847731044989396477noreply@blogger.com